What stayed with me most was your explanation of how childhood experiences can resurface when we feel we've disappointed someone.
I also appreciated the distinction between looking back at a difficult moment to understand it and replaying it simply to punish ourselves.
I've been writing about the ways childhood memories stay with us long after we've grown up, and your reflection on shame and self-compassion really resonated with me.
Thank you for normalizing the freeze, Kathy. When the stakes are that high the body takes over first, and then shame shows up afterward and makes it about who we are. Such a kind answer to that parent.
Great advice!
What stayed with me most was your explanation of how childhood experiences can resurface when we feel we've disappointed someone.
I also appreciated the distinction between looking back at a difficult moment to understand it and replaying it simply to punish ourselves.
I've been writing about the ways childhood memories stay with us long after we've grown up, and your reflection on shame and self-compassion really resonated with me.
Thank you for such a thoughtful perspective. ❤️
Thank you for normalizing the freeze, Kathy. When the stakes are that high the body takes over first, and then shame shows up afterward and makes it about who we are. Such a kind answer to that parent.