Thank you both for your comments. I agree with Nancy regarding perception/experience. That being said, it can be painful to hear and take in how another has experienced you or an interaction you had. Just as much as we need to respect the other's perception, we need to make space for our own responses to how we were seen!
No two people experience an event in the same way. Fact. Due to life experiences, differences in temperament, child vs. adult, so on and so on. Therefore, two “truths” about an event can and do exist. No one has a claim on the “absolute” truth. Even your closest friend/spouse will not have the exact same version of an event.
Please for the sake of your relationship understand that dichotomy. It will help free you to try to understand your child’s version of what happened. There is no right or wrong. Hopefully, both of you can meet & compromise.
Thank you both for your comments. I agree with Nancy regarding perception/experience. That being said, it can be painful to hear and take in how another has experienced you or an interaction you had. Just as much as we need to respect the other's perception, we need to make space for our own responses to how we were seen!
And, Harriet, thank you for your appreciation.
Kathy
My goodness, what beautiful articles - thank you so much for doing this work x
No two people experience an event in the same way. Fact. Due to life experiences, differences in temperament, child vs. adult, so on and so on. Therefore, two “truths” about an event can and do exist. No one has a claim on the “absolute” truth. Even your closest friend/spouse will not have the exact same version of an event.
Please for the sake of your relationship understand that dichotomy. It will help free you to try to understand your child’s version of what happened. There is no right or wrong. Hopefully, both of you can meet & compromise.