This sounds like a good idea for an additional column about gaslighting! If you are comfortable, would you tell me more about your experience? You could email me @ ksinsheimermft@gmail.com
This article has been an eye opener after years of self doubting myself. My estranged daughter used to tell me about horrible things I did to her when she was a child. In one instance she even affirmed that my own family despised me- referring to my closest relatives: my only sister and my beautiful cousin. That struck me, destroyed me. It's been 3 years already and I'm still wounded.
One thing that made me question myself was the fact that I went thru a deep major depression during my ED teenager years. I do have memory gaps and I gave her the benefit of the doubt...."maybe she is right, and I did hurt her." But then I realized that what she accuses me most were the years when I was perfectly "normal". But using my beloved family as a weapon, almost destroyed me.
I never had self trust issues in my life. I am a very confident woman. However, my daughter's narrative has had an impact that I can't seem to overcome
The focus on self-trust being dismantled really resonates. When reality is repeatedly denied inside attachment relationships, the harm runs much deeper than disagreement.
Please address the other way around. My parental experience has been gaslit by my adult child. Thank you.
"Turn your message on its head to make ME feel better!1"
We can see why your offspring doesn't want anything to do with you.
This sounds like a good idea for an additional column about gaslighting! If you are comfortable, would you tell me more about your experience? You could email me @ ksinsheimermft@gmail.com
This article has been an eye opener after years of self doubting myself. My estranged daughter used to tell me about horrible things I did to her when she was a child. In one instance she even affirmed that my own family despised me- referring to my closest relatives: my only sister and my beautiful cousin. That struck me, destroyed me. It's been 3 years already and I'm still wounded.
One thing that made me question myself was the fact that I went thru a deep major depression during my ED teenager years. I do have memory gaps and I gave her the benefit of the doubt...."maybe she is right, and I did hurt her." But then I realized that what she accuses me most were the years when I was perfectly "normal". But using my beloved family as a weapon, almost destroyed me.
I never had self trust issues in my life. I am a very confident woman. However, my daughter's narrative has had an impact that I can't seem to overcome
Again, thanks SO MUCH for this article.
The focus on self-trust being dismantled really resonates. When reality is repeatedly denied inside attachment relationships, the harm runs much deeper than disagreement.